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Why is 'being honest with yourself' matter?

Tonight, one of my close friends told her stories, problems.

I did chat her first, then she continued to tell many things.
In the early semester, I was not that close to her. I was just still the same, keep quiet all day long.
Then, one day we don't realize why we can get close.
Then, one night I told her the secret.

I am not the one who is reliable, I just lost in my own world.
I used not to think a memory was that important.

Back to my friend.
She told me her problem in making a relationship (is the phrase correct?)
She talked about someone who chose her to be his listener. In case, he knew my friend used to like him. She asked me, why it was her to be chosen and I just answer with:

" you know, sometimes, a boy,
 when he is choosing a girl to be his listener, it just because  he found she will not blend out her feeling to their discussion, sometimes, he just believe in the girl that way,
because, he also needs some attention or acknowledgment over something that he cannot get from others, even the one who is his girlfriend, best friend, or his closest family members."

After reading my answer, she was still asking why it was her.
I said " That question will appear when you have a small hope of him,  I think,
when a boy knows someone has a feeling for him, not all, but, sometimes, he will feel that I have to do something good to her, to reply her feeling, to make her comfortable, and will not have an awkward situation for you and him. Let say, you don't have any single feeling and hope you will not think about that question, you'll let the chatting goes by without asking why me? why that topic, why now?"

I gave her another example when she was chatting with her ex and her crush.  That is just different, but gave an answer, I think.

I've ever felt that way, having a big hope for someone.
I was just questioning,
what I wanna do, then, what I wanna get fro him or what I miss right now.
It was not easy in understanding my self, but being honest is the one and only solution.
I let my feeling flow and didn't forget the limits. The limit that we were just friend and might be better continuing as a friend.

Being honest that I put much attention to someone can help me to reduce my feeling at the same time.  It is not wrong having that, but the reality doesn't support it that way.
Being honest that I am not brave enough to acknowledge my feeling can help me back to the reality and not to be selfish.
Being honest is just helping me to solve the problems, step by step, and understand others' feelings.

-1715

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